Why women aren't clicking on your profile - How to have a better quality online dating experience!

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Online dating advice. get more woman to visit your profile, rsvp, eharmony, zoosk, tinder
Frustrated with online dating?

 So I haven't been single in 33 years so this is all a brilliantly eye opening experience. My recent encounters with the online dating world have been a complete revelation and I'm hoping the suggestions I make, based on my personal experiences, will help you attract quality dates and improve your overall online dating experience.

Profile Basics
A fabulous woman is not going to glance twice at a poorly setup profile. Whether you are on eharmony, rsvp, elite singles, zoosk or any other dating site, take the time to setup your profile completely answering all questions and inserting photos. 

 Profile Pic
Seriously, you need to get this one right. It is the first point of contact with the future love of your life. Make an effort.
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As well as the obvious like making sure the photo is in-focus and in good lighting, there a few additional elements that will ensure a click to your profile.
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USE a photo
Please don't bother creating a profile without a photo. Your future date is never going to click the profile of a blue man!

Wear a Shirt
Wear a collared shirt or at the very least a polo shirt. Casual T-shirts with Bintang smacked across them make you look the teenager that never grew up.

Don't Use Pictures With Ex Girlfriends!
Don't use a photo where you've cropped out your ex, or anyone that could be mistaken for an ex. 

Don't Pose With Your Car
Please don't pose with your car, your boat or your bike. You look just a little more than a bit narcissistic. A quality woman wants to know that you will be available to spend time with her. She doesn't want to be competing with your toys.
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Be authentic
If your aim is to find a lasting relationship, authenticity is the key. You may not attract 20 woman a day but the ones that you do attract will be closer to your ideal woman because you have included items in your profile that will appeal only to her.

 Be ready to date
Don't go to all of the effort of setting up your online profile, chat with a woman, take her out on a few dates and then decide that your not ready. This is heartbreaking. Believe me. That's all I'm saying on the matter.

 Be honest
You have met for coffee or a drink and something just doesn't quite gel with you and your date. Don't just give her the silent treatment. Let her know the truth. Do it politely but do it nonetheless. 

 Remember, the issue isn't her, it's you. If you think she has too much going on by way of job, kids, divorce etc, this simply means your ability to cope with a full load is limited. Thats not her fault.

Break-up text, really?
You have been out on a few dates, there was clearly an attraction but you decided that for some reason the time isn't right for you or you weren't ready. Call her. Be a man. It is the right thing to do. Don't text. Its so impersonal. So tacky. Just don't do it!

 Go with your heart
Don't analyse and overthink every aspect of the relationship. Yes, you've been hurt before but as Tony Robbins says "Live in your head and you are dead". Go with your heart. Be present in the moment and enjoy every second.
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Clearly I'm still single. I am also a professional photographer based in Chatswood, Sydney, Australia.

 I really hope this has been helpful. Everyone deserves to be loved.

Please feel free to comment on your experiences.

Comments

Awesome Headshots said…
Great post Nina. I too am a portrait photographer, but based in San Francisco and Los Angeles. This advise is right on track for men and also women. I get a lot of singles in my studios looking for that second chance of love yet wanting their pictures to look 10 years younger and 20 pounds lighter than they really are. I believe beauty is in the eye of the beholder and if you are going to put your best foot forward you had better make it an honest foot.thanks for the post and beautiful portfolio.
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